
First, a note... Welcome to the Seffie Club, Tat! She's finally legally a South African, having received her South African ID book yesterday :)
My own identity crisis started at birth. Good time to start this sort of thing. Gives you plenty of time to get used to it ;) My paternal grandmother wanted me named after her and my maternal grandmother wanted her to disappear off the face of the earth, preferably. My mother was a weak thing back then. Crafty tendencies only developed later in life... or maybe she was aware of what she was doing. She ended up combining the two grandmothers' names to make up my name. My gran always assumed that my name was hyphenated. After all, her daughter could surely not combine the two women who had no time for each other!
At the age of 3, after the debacle that caused me to spend time in hospital, my gran took me to live with her. I went from being a van der Merwe to a Miller. What a change.... pure Afrikaner to Scot? Miller was, Jim, my step-grandad's surname. I was happy. I adored my grandfather. I went to primary school under the name Corri-Anne Miller. I was fairly used to the horrid first part and got became adept at getting people not to call me Corri. If there was one thing that brought the monster out in me, it was someone calling me Corri.
Fast forward to high school. My gran went to register me and was told to supply my birth certificate. Then came the shock. She had never paid attention to my birth certificate. She was told that I had to go to school using the name on the birth certificate. I had to switch back to being a van der Merwe. As a teenager, you could imagine me trying to explain this to my peers. Not only that, but we discovered that my name had been spelt wrong all those years. I was Corrianne, not Corri-Anne. Funny that my mother never once mentioned it!
And so life continued. I got used to my new identity. The first name was definitely easier on the eyes and less effort to write and I really don't mind being a van der Merwe. To this day, I go as van der Merwe a lot.
Along came Jorge. We got married and I had to get used to his highly complicated surname. Wow... now there was a humdinger to spell, not to mention trying to pronounce it! LaseviÄÂius. Needless to say, everyone gets it wrong. I learnt to live with it though, but avoided saying it at all costs. What a tongue twister. When Tat was born, we had fun (not) teaching her to say her name. Naturally, she got a simple first name and no middle name. No one in our small family has middle names, thank goodness. When it was time for her to start writing her name, the fun really began. Being really clever, she got the hang of it quickly enough, so it was just a case of training everyone at her school to cope with it.
Brazil began a brand new era for me with identity. The Brazilian consulate in South Africa licked and stamped my passport and said I should apply for immigration once landing in Brazil, on the grounds of family reunification. Jorge had been in Brazil for 10 months already by then. I came over and became nothing... quite literally. From being a highly independant woman in SA, here I couldn't open a bank account. I couldn't legally work. I could do nothing. Jorge was meant to sort out my residency, but it was complicated. The consulate in SA had messed up big time. Now, I could only get residency if Tatiana applied and said she wanted me to stay. She was a naturalised Brazilian due to her relationship with Jorge. The fact that we had been married for 13 years at that point meant nothing. They wouldn't recognise a South African marriage at first, as marriages in churches aren't considered legal.
We had to start collecting documents from here and from South Africa. All our documents, mine, Jorge's and Tatiana's. This took ages. Two departments come to mind that all expat SAn's will recognise - home affairs and foreign affairs! Let me not forget to mention that I developed a rather close relationship with the local Feds here. For the time that I was collecting all our paperwork and spending a lot of quality time at the Feds with them picking at the documents and finding fault with the tiniest of details (requiring more visits to the SA consulate here - thank goodness for Anne, who was Administrative Consul at the time. She saved my sanity!) and more documents ordered from SA and translated. Are you getting the picture yet? One of the details that was 'wrong' was the fact that Tatiana's grandparents aren't mentioned on her birth certificate. Here, your parents, grandparents and their dogs are all mentioned on all documents. Another 'minor detail' we overlooked when registering Tat back home was that her birth certificate listed her as LaseviÄÂius, while mine listed me as van der Merwe, so we couldn't possibly be related *insert sarcastic tone*
Two years ago, I finally got the visit from the Feds, complete with their impressive black cars, black uniforms and armoured to the eyeballs, just in case I was an assylum escapee, to check that I was who I was and that my neighbours could confirm that I lived where I said I lived. Luckily the chap who interviewed me was nice enough. I got the precious letter telling me to collect my protocol, a tiny slip of paper with my future RNE number on it. No, I still had no ID, but I was one step closer.
Would I sound odd if I said that last year when I finally got the magic card, it was a total letdown? I guess that might have been because I'd waited so long for it, that I was fully expecting a gold-plated card with Her Royal Highness the Now Legal Corrianne LaseviÄÂius engraved on it? Or perhaps I expected to be collected by limo and taken to the highest office at the Feds. I don't know. It came so unceremoniously, it almost snuck in at the door.
So... I'm legal. I have an identity card too. I still can't open a bank account, but I can sign my name away on Jorge's credit cards or open a clothing account... basically, I have the license to blow money instead of saving it. I find that rather amusing. Of course, I'll never be allowed to vote here, being an alien, but I can and do have to pay taxes. How sweet they are :)
*note* The scrap of paper at the top was what I had to carry around here as identity for well on 2 years. It was only valid for 180 days, but they kept having delays (strikes) in producing the final document. Luckily no one questioned that scrap of paper, as it had magic stamps on it ;) I have become a great believer in magic stamps!
I have an identity. I am Tint.